You are probably reading this because you love your partner and you are hoping you guys last forever.
While this is not impossible, I’m sure you know it doesn’t come by simply wishing. Work has to be put into every relationship for it to thrive.
Having said that, if you want to be one of the couples who don’t break up, there are certain habits that you and your partner have to imbibe. Find below some of the habits of couples who don’t break up.
Habits of Couples Who Don’t Break Up
They Communicate Effectively
Healthy couples do not only communicate; they communicate effectively.
Now, let me explain this. There is a difference between talking and talking rightly; that is why some relationships make it and some don’t.
Couples who don’t break up speak to each other about issues politely and they also talk about practically everything.
They don’t cover up areas of discomfort because they are scared to stir the hornet’s nest.
They encourage each other to speak up and they sit down to address the issue with respect.
They are transparent, open and honest because they don’t want to give room for assumptions that can kill the relationship.
They Laugh and Have Fun
Life is full of ups and downs; so a couple has a chance of surviving if they are each other’s happy place.
Happy couples have a lot of fun; they do fun things with each other, they laugh and smile together.
When they are together, it is easy to forget all the issues they might be battling with because they genuinely seek to make each other happy and they enjoy each other’s company.
They Spice Up Their Relationship
Monotony causes boredom.
When you are doing something the same way every day or every other day, it is only a matter of time before you get bored.
And one of the worst things that can happen to a relationship is boredom, especially, if nothing is done to change it.
So, it is important to constantly think up ways to spice up the relationship; to do things differently and surprise each other.
You have probably heard that a good marriage is made up of two forgiving people.
This is as true as it gets.
If you are not forgiving, it is unlikely that you will be able to keep a relationship because your partner will offend you just like you will offend your partner.
None of you is perfect, so offences are bound to happen. It is important to, therefore, be ready to forgive and let certain mistakes go.
Of course, I’m not talking about continuous deliberate actions by your partner that hurts you like cheating or physical abuse.
You shouldn’t be in a situation that is harmful to you anyway.
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They Pick Their Battles
This is similar to the point above. If you want to be happy and have a happy relationship, you should learn to pick your battles.
Is it really that important that he forgot to close the door on his way out?
Do you have to fight over her spilling water on your desk and forgetting to clean it?
Do you get what I’m getting at? Not everything needs your attention or deserves your peace. You need to learn to let some go.
It can be difficult but trust me, you will live healthier that way.
They Do the Little Things
One thing I’ve noticed is that while the big things do matter, it is actually the little things that carry more weight in the relationship.
Yes, you can buy your partner a car (if you can afford it), but do you throw them compliments just because?
Do you visit them with food because they are under the weather?
Do you attend their events?
Do you say you love them always?
Do you notice when they get a new haircut or hairdo?
Are you thoughtful and considerate?
I am not saying getting a car isn’t great but it will hardly keep a relationship that is lacking all of these little thoughtful things.
Always remember; the little things carry a lot of weight.
They Are Friends
Is your partner your friend or you don’t consider them your friend?
If your answer to the latter is in the affirmative, then there is a big problem.
Apart from having romantic feelings for your partner, you should genuinely like your partner.
They should be one of the first people you want to talk to when something happens in your life. They should be your support system and partner in every way.
In conclusion, it is possible to have the fairy tale relationship or marriage you dream of as far as you and your partner are ready to put in the work. If you commit to all you’ve read here, you will find a great improvement in your relationship.
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