You love him and you desire to marry him.
It is a valid desire.
However, there is usually the dilemma of expressing this desire because you don’t want to seem needy or push him away.
Your best bet is making him think it is his idea in the first place. How do you make him want to marry you?
Make Him Happy
We have been erroneously made to believe that men do not have emotions and so, sometimes, we are not intentional about making them happy the way we expect them to make us happy.
A man wants to know that the woman he is planning to spend his life with is someone who prioritises his happiness.
He also doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life unhappy.
Respect His Boundaries
A healthy relationship has healthy boundaries on both sides and should be respected by both parties.
Sometimes, people think because they are now in a relationship, their lives have to be completely intertwined.
No, it is okay to have a life outside of each other as well, especially if you are able to make sure it aligns.
Respect his time out with his friends, his job, his dreams, his goals and his vision without feeling insecure about it.
Respect His Family And Friends
If he is a man who is close to his family, then you will have to respect them. In fact, except for very exceptional cases, a man with no respect for family is one of the red flags to watch out for in a relationship.
So, you should be glad he respects his family and accord them the same respect.
In most cases, men introduce their women to their friends first before their family. His friends have great influence over his decisions; it is just the way it is.
So, it is a no-brainer that you should respect them and respect their relationship.
Be His Support System
One of the ways to make him want to marry you is to be his cheerleader. He should know that he has a support system in you anytime, any day.
If he feels like you don’t support his dreams and his goals, it should not come as a surprise that he will not want to marry you.
It has been said that men are natural providers and when they love you, one of the ways they show it is by providing.
Although, I am of the opinion that men were taught to be the provider, so they fell into the role. But in any case, we have seen this play out where men derive joy from being able to provide.
However, most men do not want to be with a woman who they consider a liability.
You should have something of your own and they will appreciate you more for it, knowing you are bringing something to the table.
Besides, if you really have nothing to offer, it might give off the vibe that you don’t actually love them; you just want what they have to offer.
Be His Peace
There is so much pressure in the outside world; his job, his business and maybe even, his family.
You should provide succour from all the pressure he is facing and feeling from everywhere else. No man will want to marry you if you add to the storm he is facing.
He should consider you his peace. He should know that whenever he is coming to you, he will experience peace.
Now, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t express yourself when you have an issue or he offends you, it just means you shouldn’t trouble him.
Also, when he has a problem, he should be able to find comfort when he comes to you.
Trust Him And Show He Can Trust You
There are few things more stressful than being around an insecure person and the sad thing is that insecurity is counterproductive.
When you are insecure in your relationship, it is usually with the intent of keeping the person to yourself but in fact, it pushes them away.
If he has not proven himself to be trustworthy, then you shouldn’t even be in that relationship in the first place.
But if he has, trust him.
On the other hand, let him know he can trust you. Be loyal and trustworthy if you want him to see a future with you.
Show Your Affection
We all need assurance; even men. Men are definitely as emotional as women and they need to be shown affection too; they are not robots.
Find out his love language and feed it. Touch him, tell him how much he means to you and just let him know generally that you appreciate his presence in your life.
Generally, we are more likely to focus on things that people don’t do for us instead of focusing on what they are actually doing.
One of the ways to make him want to marry you is by appreciating him. In fact, you are likely to get him to do more for you when you affirm him.
It encourages him to do better and stamps your position in his heart.
Make Him Laugh
We all love to laugh; life is already serious and it is normal that we want to be around people who will make us laugh.
Don’t make all conversations serious and devoid of fun. Be intentional about introducing fun into your relationship and making him laugh.
Take Care Of Yourself
As superficial as it might seem, physical attraction is very important in any relationship. If you want to make him want to marry you, then you have to take care of yourself.
Don’t let yourself go and try to look good for him.
Of course, you can’t always take extra care with your looks; that is unrealistic and you should be with a man who understands that.
But as much as you can, feed his eyes with your beauty. Let him see you and be proud, especially when you are going out.
08/01/2023 at 3:52 AM
Thanks, made me feel good to know that I possess those qualities!!
13/01/2023 at 2:19 PM
I am glad to hear that. Thank you for reading.