I really do not like it when people talk about long-distance relationships as though there is something wrong with it.
I find it hard to understand why people make it seem like such a big deal.
Don’t get me wrong, I understand that long-distance relationships require more work than couples who have geographical proximity.
But a relationship is not automatically doomed because the couple don’t live in the same city, long-distance relationships are as healthy as they come.
And in fact, there are certain benefits to being in a long-distance relationship.
What are the benefits of long-distance relationships?
- You Have The Opportunity To Know Each Other Very Well
Most of the relationship is based on talking. In fact, couples in a long-distance relationship are likely to talk more than others because that is the only way they can keep the fire of their relationship burning.
The lack of proximity makes it necessary to talk always and they usually have deep conversations, trying to make up for the fact that they cannot be together.
Consequently, they get to know each other a lot more.
- You Are Certain You Are In Love And Not Lust
One of the benefits of long-distance relationships is the fact that the distance helps you know for certain if you are in love or in lust.
Sometimes, it can be difficult to decipher if what we are feeling is love and not lust because sexual attraction is a big part of being in love.
But if you see yourself wanting to try hard to keep the relationship, it means what you feel for the person is deep and not just physical.
- You Are Certain Your Partner Is In Love With You
In the same vein, long-distance relationships also help you know that your partner actually loves you.
Determining what another person feels for us can be difficult; it is not easy to determine their thoughts towards us because we cannot read their minds.
But long-distance can help you figure that out. Anybody who wants to play games with you or who is with you for selfish reasons will not bother with a long-distance relationship.
Couples in long-distance relationships have to be totally committed and focused on the relationship for it to work.
And nobody will work that hard for something they don’t really want.
- You Appreciate Time Spent Together And Make It Memorable
You are likely to appreciate the time spent together and make it memorable because you don’t spend time with each other frequently.
So, when you do see, you cherish being in each other’s presence and make the memory count.
You make sure that you do things that actually count, that can somehow serve for the distance till you see each other again.
- You Are Unlikely To Deal With Boredom
Many people get bored in their relationship after a while because of how involved they are in each other’s life.
Some couples even live so closely that they see each other every other day. While that is cute, the monotony can begin to wear on the relationship.
One of the benefits of long-distance relationships is that you do not have to deal with this issue. Your time together will always seem new and fresh.
- You Learn Effective Communication
Learning how to communicate effectively is very important in every relationship and for some relationships, it takes time.
Some never get a hang of it and have to break up because they could not find a way to communicate effectively.
In a long-distance relationship, because you have to talk, you will develop a deeper connection that will help your communication.
You will also have the opportunity to practice conflict resolution skills more because the distance makes conflict resolution even trickier.
- You Have Time To Work Towards Your Own Goals
A lot of people don’t appreciate the time that goes into a relationship. While relationships can be very fulfilling and are definitely worth it, it demands a lot of sacrifices.
Couples in long-distance relationships can kill two birds with one stone; they can have a fulfilling relationship and pursue their own passions and goals.
Use the opportunity of the distance to take that course, learn that skill, read those books, further your education and any other thing you know you should be doing for self development.
You will be thankful you did.
- You Develop Independence
Relationships are about interdependence but there are many couples who cannot do anything without the other person.
If you are in a long-distance relationship, you don’t have this problem. You learn to be independent and handle life’s issues yourself.
You get emotional support from your partner but they are not there to just fix everything for you. it teaches you self sufficiency.
- It Strengthens Your Commitment Towards Each Other
It is easy to slack when you are in close proximity to your lover but in a long-distance relationship, you know that you cannot afford to slack.
It is always at the back of your mind that you need to put in a lot of work if you want your relationship to last.
So, you will both put in your best and this will help strengthen your commitment towards each other.
In fact, if your relationship can survive long distance, it is unlikely that it won’t survive other things that could break other relationships.